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Wednesday, June 14, 2006

foolish or selfish???????????????/

What do you call this? Foolishness or selfishness?
Malathy is 36 years old. She has been married for the past thirteen years. She was almost on the verge of separation as she could not bear a child for the family. But by God’s grace she conceived. As is common with all the mid thirty pregnancy, both diabetes and hypertension set into her system. She was admitted to the hospital by about 7 months of pregnancy and she was in total rest. The fetus was monitored four times a day.
We were just waiting for her to cross 34 weeks so that we could do a C.S to deliver the baby. As is the routine she underwent a sonogram on Friday morning. We noticed that the liquor (the fluid surrounding the baby) was reduced and so she needed to be delivered. This was told to her relatives. As we were getting ready to shift the patient to the theatre, her father-in- law came running and very breathless. He asked us to stop taking her to the operation theatre. We were all perturbed. He told us that he had just consulted an astrologer and this astrologer told him that since it is going to be a male child and the next two days are inauspicious he wanted us to postpone the surgery to Monday. No amount of talking with him helped. He was very adamant. Malathy literally fell on his feet. The husband could not take a decision. After all it was his child! We could do nothing about the situation.
Later the same evening she complained of loss of movements of the fetus. Again an ultrasonogram was repeated and the result a dead fetus! Ultimately we had to do a section to deliver a GIRL baby..
What do you call this? Ignorance? Foolish?

12 comments:

priya said...

I would call him a saddist...
He has no right to stop his wife/DIL to deliver her baby. Women need more awarenes of themselves rather being too soft towards their family. She might go thru' the same agony again for the next child. How mean men are.....
As a husband, he has lost his individuality as a father and husband just for the cause of unthinkable.

Orani said...

Dear Doc,

This is very disturbing and ridiculous. I believe there is no boundry for the ignorant nature of people. No matter where they do live or what kind of education they have. A sheer nonsense!

I really feel sorry for the mom and the dead baby. Thanks for sharing with us. It is a news, no question about.

delphine said...

Dear Priya, Thank you so much. In our medical life we often come across such people and sometimes we are totally at a loss. Thank you for your expression.

delphine said...

Dear Orani. yes this is rediculous yes, We are dumbfounded at such incidents. Thank you so much

தி. ரா. ச.(T.R.C.) said...

Doc. thank u for visiting my site. from 1st july updation will be there.
people will not realise that they are playing with the human life.That type of attitude shuld be condemned fot ever. TRC

Gladis Jacob said...

God Bless the family.

வல்லிசிம்ஹன் said...

Delphine,at this age of wisdom and knowledge , that person had this audacity is something I just cannot imagine.will he ever regret for what he has to the mother of his child?
God Be with her and give her peace. revathi narasimhan

delphine said...

Yes Valli. It is so unfortunate that we do come across such people. Time and again I have seen men keeping quiet when they have to take a decision. They just leave it to their parents. I really feel sad when I come across such young men when they do not stand by their wife.

delphine said...

Thank you Gladis.

Anonymous said...

well its sad but its one of the situations we face in our practise.The dad who cannot decide about this is not fit to be a dad or a husband.

tbr.joseph said...

Hi Delphine!

It is really sad.. But what to do? That's how Indians look at things. Any amount of education would not be of any use if people continue to be guided by stars and astrologers..

delphine said...

Hello Joseph Sir, Thanks for dropping by. Looks as though it has been ages since I saw your posts. Almost daily we come across such patients. The latest trend is they fix up the time and date on which the child should be born. They don't care even if it is at mid night. Practising Medicine is becoming very difficult. Thank you Sir.